Abuse Checklist

Want to know if you have experienced narcissistic abuse? Here are some key points that would indicate that you have been affected by an emotional manipulator:

  1. If you are wondering whether you have been abused then it is likely that you have been. In a healthy relationship, we don’t tend to find the need to search for information to find out whether there is something “off” with the relationship.
  2. Try saying “no” to them in some way. See how they react. A narcissist is likely to fly into a rage. They may try and hide that rage, especially if you have not known them for long, but it is likely to be palpable.
  3. You doubt yourself and feel that the opinions of others are more important than your own.
  4. You feel as though there is something “wrong” with you.
  5. You feel separate and different to other people.
  6. You fear being punished by God and authority figures.
  7. You have a sense that you DESERVE to be punished (this is a symptom of self hatred).
  8. You feel a strong need to be approved of by others.
  9. You find it very difficult to leave or end a relationship.
  10. You find yourself repeatedly victimised by abusive people – known as repetition compulsion.
  11. You feel like you might be crazy – cognitive dissonance. A person may have left you so confused that you wonder if there really IS something wrong with you and that perhaps you really have lost your mind this time! (Exactly what the abuser wants you and everyone in your environment to believe about you!)
  12. You feel as though you are becoming isolated and as though the abuser is the only person who understands you (this is an illusion that the abuser wants you to believe).
  13. You feel yourself being drawn into unhealthy “triangles” with other people, through the use of emotions such as jealousy and by being compared with others¬†– triangulation.